Sometimes opportunities to act with mindful intention fall into your lap: the politeness jam at the four-way intersection, when everyone wants to let the other guy go first; the earnest admission from someone who moves you to respond in kind. But, let’s face it, barring an emergency, mostly our days and weeks churn by without mindful awareness of any particular moment. The funny thing is, any ol’ Wednesday is packed with choice points to notice the present and to engage. Once you start doing it, you’ll be amazed by how many opportunities there are to connect, to appreciate, and to experience— everywhere, all the time. The best part? It’s super easy to do. Just a small, simple action can help you wake up and plug-in to the life pulsing all around you. Here are a few ideas to get started.
INSECURITY KILLS ALL THAT IS BEAUTIFUL…. DEMI LAVATO
Insecurity according to the dictionary means uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. We have all been insecure about something or even ourselves at some point in our lives. It’s very normal to that insecure every once in a while about something or your relationship but it’s not ok to let the feeling get the best of you because it generally hinders success. You can never achieve anything if you are too insecure about your flaws, what you do or even your relationship. Insecurity takes away your inner peace and most times robs you of your happiness. Insecurities steps in the moment you start feeling less of yourself.
“If wishes were horses, beggars would have one” they say or let me say that’s the general believe. As a child, I think we have all had things we wanted to do, places we wanted to visit and so on in which some, we were able to achieve and some we weren’t. But as I grew up, I started feeling like having bucket lists were completely cliché, I always thought this was just a me thing but until I had met others who shared the same opinion like I did, trust me you are never alone with anything in this life. So sometimes last year, just out of boredom (the things boredom can make you do!) and the urge to get out of my comfort zone, I started researching about different places in the world that I could visit with the little money I had in account, but unfortunately none!, I just kept on researching and fantasizing about these places and it was then I discovered that there are so many beautiful places in this world a lot of people like me didn’t know about. I remember I was then having a conversation with a group friend about this and that was when the issue of making a travel bucket list came up again. I told them how I felt about it but one of my friends insisted that I should give it a trial.
I’m currently obsessing over Fame by Adekunle Gold……
I was recently going through my instagram feed, then I came across this interview with Gabrielle Union by Jada Pinkette Smith where she talked about how much of a people pleaser she used to be, it just reminded me of my old self and how I was always trying to make everyone around me happy not minding if it costs me my own happiness. I always thought this would make me appear easy-going and likable. I was always trying to put a smile on everyone’s face, trying to be that perfect person they wanted me to be and I didn’t even realize I was losing myself while I was at it, saying no to people was a real big deal for me because I was scared of how they would feel. Not until the day I realized I’m not obligated to like anymore the same way no one is obligated to like me, you can’t force it, it’s something that is meant of happy naturally or over time.
I woke up this morning with so much thoughts in my head as to why nothing seems to be working out for me, putting so much efforts to certain things yet no result, having to let go of so much more for one particular thing that is even uncertain. I spent hours on these thoughts and so many things just kept going through my mind, this isn’t the life I wanted, I didn’t plan to just sit at home and do nothing after my service year, I had my life planned out before I left my PPA, how did I get here?, how did my life take this turn?, a whole lots of my mates are doing better than I’m. After hours of going back and forth on these thoughts, I just went down on knees and spoke to God about it, I poured out my heart in tears hoping that God would hear me and grant me all that I wanted right away, so while I was at it, something in me just said to me “at least you are alive and healthy, what about people who are sick or no where to be found atm, here you are crying because the plans you had for yourself is not working out, forgetting about the plans God has for your life” and that moment I asked myself what if all these things I want are not even part of God’s plan for my life or even if they are, what if it’s not time of those things to manifest as the Bible says “God makes all things beautiful in his own “. After this realization, I just told God to let his will be done in my life. This renewed the assurance in my heart about God’s love for me, his good plans for me, and that he would fulfill them all in his own time.